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June 28, 2011

Discipline Tips

Filed under: General — Tags: , , , — Jennifer @ 1:49 am

Summary: the article reiterates the parent’s role in disciplining the child. It also highlights why disciplining is important.

Each child is different. One enjoys the taste of sweets; another does not go near sweets. Being parents we look to each and every child’s needs. This is the same method we should use to discipline them. A child needs to learn how to be responsible and he/she must know that there are consequences for their actions.

When it comes to disciplining, I am not a fan of spanking and would not suggest you to do so as well. The first thing you have to do is to set rules for the child. These rules have to be understood by your child. They also need to know why the rules are there. Ensure that everyone in the house follows the rule. If you break it, you pay for the consequences. This sets a clear direction for the children. Children need to be clear to the rules. From here the child learns, experientially, right actions and wrong ones.

When it is time to discipline your child, do not let him escape. Take responsibility towards your child’s attitude and behavior. Remember it is merely the attitude that needs to change and not the child itself. Attitude’s are picked up and can be changed. Show the child that a different mindset is all that is needed for the child. This way he/she will have be able to face challenges.

Follow the punishments in your home. It will allow your child to learn to be responsible towards their behavior and realize that everything they do has to be accounted for. Do not let them get away without any cost. A child that is reprimanded for what he/she does, learns to deal with the consequences. A child that learns the hard way will never forgets the lesson. It will be with them throughout their lives.

One thing I would like to emphasize here is that you, as a parent, are just correcting the attitude of the child and not the child. You must not criticize the child by putting him down with word like “Look at the mess you have done” to the child this translates as “I am wrong”. Instead you should say “Clean this mess now” or “You know the rules…” Give positive words to ensure that you are angry, but that does not make him/her wrong..

Giving positive words goes a long way with a child. We do not want to nurture inferiority complex in them now would we? Let them know you are angry towards their deeds. Choose to be a nurturing parent, one that shows the child that you have to take responsibility for your actions and make them see that actions can change. Nurture them well.

 

Find out more about discipline tips at this website about Better Toddler Parenting.

June 23, 2011

Tips On How To Connect To Your Child

Filed under: General — Tags: , , — Jennifer @ 3:46 pm

Summary: The article is about how a parent can build a deep connection with their children/child.

One of the prerequisite to become a parent is the ability to work 24/7. It is one’s job which requires you to put in your whole heart.

A parent has a certain expectation as to how their child must be like; a child on the other hand takes things lightly. As parents we have got to loosen up. You have to walk hand in hand with your child in order to connect to them. You must remember that the child is not your ownership for you to dictate and to command. They have taken birth to be here. Accepting this will make your life and the child’s life a better one.

Children are very susceptible to their environment. You have to ensure that you have a nurturing surrounding. Your child should feel that he/she has an environment that provides growth. That is where the connections are built. A child has very sensitive skin and is able to sense the softness and tenderness of your touch. He/she knows that the parent is there. This touch develops a trusting bond between child and parent. It is an unbreakable bond.

Besides this, parents have to refrain from bringing the office problems back home. Once you are in the house, leave your work out and come in as a parent. Children can sense when you are stressed out and they have learnt to cope with that.

When we express our frustration to them, they sense it. Parents need to decide, with conviction, to leave your personal problems out. When you are at home, think only of home and not of other things. When with your child, be with your child; why think about other things?

You need to remember that your child is watching everything that you do and can sense the slightest change in moods. Talking, singing or even the mere glance you make towards your child let it be out of love. Children understand love and are able to connect to love. Learn to speak that language; it will build a long lasting bridge between you and your child. No one can destroy this bridge. 

 

Find out more about parental help at this website about Dealing With Toddlers.                                                                                 

June 6, 2011

Several Steps To Curb Your Toddler’s Tantrum

Filed under: General — Tags: , , , — Jennifer @ 5:03 pm

It is very common for toddlers and young children to experiment their feelings by throwing temper tantrums. Parents should be observant and alert in dealing with this problem by following several steps to settle down the tantrums.

Behave well in front of your child. It is important for parents to set an example of proper behaviour in front of their kids. Never act rudely or show your frustration to your child because at the age of 2 – 5, children learn by imitating their parents, therefore, they will behave aggressively if you do as well. Be calm and easygoing when handling your kid. Have a strong and firm approach when disciplining them but never intimidate them.

Always observe your child. Learn to observe the child’s behavior and instead of yelling when the child throws a tantrum, sit beside him or her and ask the reason for his/her behaviours. This helps communication with your child. Also, make sure your child has nutritious food and adequate sleep. Fatigue or hunger can be a reason for tantrums. Make sure the toddler has his or her afternoon naps in order for full resting period.

Have alternative for your child to choose. When the child does not get what he or she wants that’s when you see them flailing with their hands banging on the floor. However, when you present them with choices, they will have the opportunity to choose either one in making them feel happy with their own choice.

Spend time with your child. Usually kids are left alone to play or they are brought to play with other kids. At this time, they will either run around with all of their excessive energy or get bored easily and thus, become cranky. For example, have indoors games or read the child a story and maybe bring the child to a playground or set a play date. It improves both health and IQ. It can also help parents to bond with their kids.

Limitations and restrictions are important. Make sure your child understand instructions. When the child has been used to the instructions such as, “Go, wash your hands.” or “Clean up your toys before dinner.” then the child would be easier to manage. Teach them rules that they have to obey and hand out non-physical punishments like going to bed early or no ice cream or television if they do not obey the rule.

Find out more about discipline tips at this website about Toddler Tantrums.

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